My husband and I have decided to have a five-year wedding vow renewal. We will be doing it alone….under a waterfall and then immediately being whisked off to front row seats to see Elton John. My all time favorite singer. This will be the most incredible day for me. I skipped weddings both times I was married. I just wasn’t into it. The Rose ceremony immediately spoke to me. I am excited to be doing something to express my feelings to my husband in a way that feels intimate and true.
In the Rose Ceremony, the Bride and Groom give each other a red rose bud . Two red rose buds are all that is necessary. If you have children involved in the ceremony, you may have a rose for each of them too. The Rose Ceremony is placed near the end of the ceremony just “after” being pronounced husband and wife.
This ceremony is what I call an “add-on” ceremony. It is intended to be added into the wedding or renewal of vows ceremony. Tweak the wording to reflect a wedding or vow renewal. Ours is a vow renewal so below is what will be said.
In the old language of flowers, a single red rose has always meant “I love you”. The Rose ceremony gives recognition to the new and most honorable title of “Wife and Husband”.
This ceremony originates in a classic rose ceremony from a lost and elegant age. It was rewritten by the Hon. Mark Ovard and rewritten again by Larry James explaining the true meaning of the ceremony – and in ways that can endure through your married life together – this is a unique and meaningful addition to any marriage ceremony. It will also inspire your guests.
Sample Rose Ceremony:
Minister: Your first gift to each other for your vow renewal today has been your wedding rings – which shall always be an outward demonstration of your vows of love and respect and a public showing of your commitment to each other. In addition, you both have given and received one of the most valuable and precious gifts of life – one I hope you always remember – the gift of true and abiding love within the devotion of marriage.
You now have what remains the most honorable title that exists between a woman and a man – the title of “wife” and “husband.” It is now my great privilege to hand you a gift which sumbologize true love, that gift will be a single red rose bud.
(Minister hands each a red rose bud)
The rose is considered a symbol of love and a single rose always means only one thing – it means, “I love you.”
Please exchange the rose buds as your new gifts to each other as a continuation of life together as wife and husband.
Within these rose buds, if given proper loving care, is the potential for an even more beautiful expression of Life and Love in the form of the mature flower. And so it is with your marriage. At this point your marriage is like these rose buds – ready, with proper loving care – to unfold into a very beautiful expression of life.
Rick and Jane, I would ask that where ever you make your home in the future – whether it be a large and elegant home – or a small and graceful one – that you both select one very special location for roses; so that on each anniversary of this truly wonderful occasion you both may take a rose to that spot both as a recommitment to the holy vows which you have made before God and those present on this beautiful day.
Those of us who are already married know that marriage, like life, brings with it many joys and also many challenges. We also know that love, while beautiful, does not always show its prettiest face. There are days when we may find it hard to express the depth of our love for one another.
Sometimes it is difficult to find the right words. It might be difficult to find the words to say “I am sorry” or “I forgive you”; “I need you” or “I am hurting”. If this should happen, if you simply can not find these words, leave a rose at that spot which both of you have selected – for that rose then says what matters most of all and should overpower all other things and all other words.
That rose says, “I still love you.”
It is wise to understand this as a statement of love and the need, or request for that extra bit of tender loving care permits the beauty of the rose to come forth from the rose bud. So also will that love permit the beauty of maturity to come forth from your marriage in every situation. Your partner should accept this rose for the words which cannot be found, and remember the love and hope that you both share today.
Rick and Jane, if there is anything you remember of this marriage ceremony, it is that it was love that brought you here today, it is only love which can make it a glorious union, and it is by love which your marriage shall endure. Whatever the situation, love, understanding, acceptance and forgiveness can make everything all right.