Peonies = Happy Marriage!

My eldest daughter and her husbands best friends are getting married today!  They are both in the wedding party… I thought I would repost about our favorite wedding flower….the peony.


Peonies date to at least 1,000 B.C. These long-lived plants, some of which  are known to survive for as long as 100 years, are prized for their sturdy  foliage, lush blooms and sweet scent. Early American settlers brought peony  plants across the ocean and planted them on American soil to remind them of the homes  they had left behind.


Peony blossoms come in shades of white,  cream, pink, rose and deep red;  yellow-flowered peonies are more rare. Obviously, I am partial to the pink peony! Although  they bloom only in late spring or early summer, their glossy leaves remain an  attractive backdrop to the perennial border throughout the growing season.  Plants are available in both herbaceous (meaning that the leaves die to the  ground each winter) and tree forms. The herbaceous Paeonia lactiflora, also  known as the Chinese peony, is probably the best known and most widely grown.  When first cultivated by the Chinese, peonies were bred to produce huge, double  blooms. When the plant was introduced to Japan, it was hybridized to produce  more simple flowers, which became known as the Japanese form. Paeonia  suffruticosa, the tree peony, is a deciduous shrub usually between 3 and 4 feet  in height, although some varieties can reach 6 feet.

Peonies in Greek Mythology

Revered since ancient times, the peony has numerous legends attached to it.  It gets its name from a Greek myth in which Paeon, physician to the gods,  angered his teacher Asclepius, the god of medicine and healing. When Asclepius  threatened to kill Paeon out of jealousy, Zeus saved him by changing him into  the lovely flower we know today as the peony. In another legend, Paeon is a  mortal who is spared death by being transformed into a beautiful flower.

Peonies in Art

The exquisite peony flower has long been a favorite of Asian artists and  appears not only in painting but poetry and literature as well. It is a frequent  motif in Chinese art, featured on screen paintings, clothing and woodblocks. The  peony is also a much-loved subject of Japanese artists, who have used it to  adorn tapestries and porcelain. European artists, such as Pierre-Auguste Renoir  and Vincent van Gogh, also sought to capture the peony’s beauty on canvas.

Peony as Medicine

The ancient Chinese discovered that the peony’s bark, roots, seeds and  flowers served as medicine. Mu Dan Pi, a remedy made from the bark of the tree  peony, was believed to cool the blood and provide antiseptic properties. Chi  Shao Yao, made from the roots of the herbaceous peony, was believed to cool the  blood and provide pain relief. When the peony was brought to Europe in the  1200s, it was used to ease childbirth, ward off evil spirits and cure  gallstones. Although peonies have been used continually in traditional Eastern  medicine, they have not been used in Western medicine since medieval times. The  buds and leaves of the peony are used in China to make a delicate white tea  which many believe to have medicinal qualities.

Other Symbolism

Together with the plum blossom, the peony is a national floral symbol of the  country of China. The Chinese name for peony means “beautiful” and in Chinese  culture the flowers represent riches, prosperity and honor. In Western culture,  the peony serves as the symbol for the 12th wedding anniversary, and in the  language of flowers, represents good fortune and a happy marriage. In Victorian  times, it might also have represented bashfulness, since mischievous nymphs were  said to hide in its magnificent petals.


Peony for Your Wedding Flower?


Picking the type and color scheme of flowers for your wedding can seem daunting.  Though if you research a little and discover the romantic meaning of certain flowers you can narrow the field of choices down pretty quickly.  Todays expample will be the Peony, which means……………. Happy marriage, Bashfulness, Prosperity! An excellent choice to start your marriage off on the right foot, IMHO.  There are lots of other flowers to chose from and we will cover them but today it is Peony day!

I remember a boyfriend sending me a bouquet of red roses while he was away, but it was not the roses that impressed me as much as the fact that he had asked for one single Forget-me-not to be included – I didn’t need anyone to tell me what that meant, but it is not always as obvious what flowers mean. Are you planning a wedding soon?  Would you like to know what your wedding bouquet will say? If so, read on…


Subtle and secret messages can be given by choosing flowers carefully. It is believed that the flower language began in Turkey during the seventeenth century. Romantic lovers began using floral exchanges to convey emotional messages using the flower meanings. The Victorians became very knowledgeable in the flower language and chose their bouquets carefully. Flowers gave them a secret language that enabled them to communicate feelings that the propriety of the times would not allow. Flower selections were limited and people used more symbols and gestures to communicate than words.

I have listed a few flowers and their meaning below, and if you are still deciding, I hope that this will give a little inspiration and you will have fun choosing which flowers to select for your wedding flowers. This list includes what I think fits in best with weddings but feel free to look at the longer lists to see if something pops out that’s just right for your unique wedding.

Agapanthus – Flower of love

Allium – Unity, Humility, Patience

Alstromeria – Devotion,Wealth, Good fortune

Anemone – Anticipation, Lust,Forsaken

Bluebell – Humility, Everlasting love

Calla Lily – Magnificent beauty

Cornflower – Delicacy, Hope in love, Blessedness

Cosmos – Beautiful Dahlia – Dignity, Elegance, Good taste

Daisy – Innocence, Loyal love, Purity, Gentleness, Romance, Cheerfulness

Delphinium – Flight of fancy, Ardent, Attachment, Agility

Forget-me-not – Faithful love, Undying hope, Memories, True love, Do not forget

Freesia – Innocence, Trust, Friendship

Gerbera – Happiness, Cheerfulness

Gypsophilia – Pure of Heart, Innocence

Hibiscus – Delicate beauty Hydrangea – Thank you for understanding

Iris – Faith, Wisdom, Valor, Promise, Hope, Friendship

Ivy – Wedded love, Fidelity,Frienship, Affection

Jasmine – Amiability Lilac (white) – Youthful innocence, Purity, Modesty

Lilac  – First emtion of love

Lily (pink) – Youth, Acceptance,Prosperity

Lily (white) – Youthful love, Purity

Lily of the Valley – Return to happiness, Sweetness, Devotion

Lisianthus – Appreciation Mexican

Orange Blossom – Purity, Eternal love, Marriage

Orchid – Refined love, Beautiful lady

Peony – Happy marriage, Bashfulness, Prosperity


(I am a huge fan of the mason jar, if you planning  a wedding  on  a budget  think about simple mason jars filled with your fav flowers for your centerpieces.  They are charming and whimsical!  Your local craft store will sell all sizes and colors of mason jars.  I also highly recomend using to buy your flowers and make your own arrangements.  Have a hen party and put all your centerpieces togther the day before the wedding.  It’s wonderful bonding time and it will soothe your nerves. Trust me on this one.)

Poppy – Pleasure, imagination, Wealth

Primrose – I cannot live without you

Ranunculus – I am dazzled by your charms, radiant

Rose – Confidentiality, Love, Passion

Stephanotis – Happiness in marriage, Desire to travel

Sunflower – Adoration, Pride, Sunshine, Longevity

Tulip – Perfect lover, Romance

Note –  Depending on the culture, quite different meanings of flowers are attached to the same blooms, so you may find variations. This is my short list of wedding flowers and thier  meanings.